I just went to see the movie Embrace with my new friend and fellow HA warrior Kate. It was lovely meeting her in person and we spent a lot of time over dinner before the show bemoaning how our society has encouraged us toward the predicament of treating our bodies so harshly in an attempt to be healthy – and also how much more common hypothalamic amenorrhea is these days with the latest trends in “clean” eating and strength and endurance training for women.
Anyway, the movie was utterly fantastic and I cannot recommend it enough. Whatever your personal situation is, I can pretty much guarantee that Embrace will speak to you. I love the idea that is becoming more and more commonplace: that we should love ourselves and others for what we accomplish and *think* instead of what we look like (and heck, let’s do our best to pass this idea on to the next generation!). I know, not really a newsflash anymore, but at the same time it’s an idea that is easy to give lipservice to without truly believing. Embrace took me even further than I was down the path of believing. Find a way to see this movie! #ihaveembraced
Along the lines of switching your outlook, a woman recently posted in a facebook support group of which I am a member (join mine here) about how she was struggling with feeling frumpy and not hot when she went into a fashionable store to try on some new clothes. The responses were amazing, insightful, and inspiring, which is why you should join too if you’re working on recovery. Who doesn’t need an army of HA warriors at their back?
Lindsay said, “I’m so sorry you’re having a rough day. I understand; I had MANY of them. The next time you go shopping and you don’t like how something looks when you try it on, try to shift your mindset from “This fabulous shirt doesn’t fit my body” to “My fabulous body doesn’t fit this shirt“. There is nothing wrong with your body; it’s the shirt that doesn’t work. Take it off, and try on a different style. Do you remember the show What Not to Wear? I like to think of that show every time I go shopping, because Stacy and Clinton could always make ANY person look fabulous, no matter how big/small/short/tall. It’s just a matter of finding clothing that really flatters you. Body love and acceptance takes time… you’re just getting started here, and the changes are fresh and new. Over time, you’ll get used to your new self, and you will grow to love it as much as you did your old self. Maybe even more. Remind yourself daily that you are a multi-dimensional person… you are not just a body. And truly, the other aspects of your being – your personality, your sense of humor, your wit, your charm – are what people are most drawn to. Don’t let any perceived ‘imperfections’ of your physical body spoil the rest of that.”
Yes, yes, YES!